Run Forest RUN....

The story before the story.....

So I never thought that I had a specific "type" of guy that I was attracted to, until I was talking to a friend yesterday and it suddenly dawned on me...... "I am literally describing the EXACT SAME GUY over and over and over again!!" lol!! All the guys that I have gone on dates with so far, (with the exception of one), are exactly the same.... above average height, above average build, strong facial features, (and or facial hair), and a cute baseball booty!! This was shocking to me because all along I have told myself that "HUMOR" is what I was attracted to and is what mattered the most, and that it could come in ANY package...... turns out I was wrong! Humor IS very important to me, so long as it comes in the very specific package that is listed above! lol!

Now on to date four:

I shall call this cute guy, "Forest." I got a message from him and before I responded, I viewed his profile and discovered that we had very similar interests... and by similar interest I mean: he use to play professional baseball, and I just happen to like guys that play baseball! lol! So anyway, after a few email exchanges we decided that the only time that we could meet up without having to wait two weeks (because of our schedules), was at a marathon he was running, in just a few days.... At first I thought this was a bit odd, because it wouldn't really allow us time to chat or get to know each other or anything, but I agreed.

"Forest" told me to meet him at one of the last water stops, so I could encourage him along and he could finish strong, then we could meet up again after he crossed the finish line and chat for a bit. I'm gonna throw in a quick side not here: I thought that I would be completely disgusted by a smelly, sweaty guy wanting to talk to me, give me a hug, or worse, give me a kiss after he had been running for god knows how long!!.... but as it turns out, I WAS WRONG AGAIN!! Its actually quite attractive! Especially since he was wearing a little medal for finishing in the top whatever percent! lol! Okay, I digress..... Back to the date. When he finished running, we met up and walked to his car, and he had flowers waiting for me.... I mean, come on, how sweet is that! This was his run, this was his deal, and he took the time out of his early morning to get ME flowers!! #BrowniePoints!! He totally trumped the Gatorade and granola bar I had waiting for him!! lol! We ended up walking over to a little bench and talking for over an hour, and he is super sweet!! He had all the right answers to all the right questions..... even if he didn't, that smile of his could get him away with anything! ;O) Long story longer..... we had a great time and we are planning another date soon!!! (Hurry up Cinco de Mayo!!)


(C)

Hi, welcome to CiCi's!!!

Day two.... Date three:

Lets start off by saying this..... This blog will be short, because the "date" lasted all of 30mins!

So I meet "Tom" online (of course).... He's 39, a chiropractor, never married, no kiddos! I thought to myself: "I love the fact that he's  in the healthcare industry and I love to get adjustments, so why not give this a whirl!" Plus, he seemed kind and polite!

I HOPE YOU ARE SITTING DOWN FOR THIS ONE...

I literally only had one hour on Friday to meet up with him, and he was going to be busy all weekend and at a conference next week, so we agreed to make the most of our time and meet at a "little Italian Resturant".... 

(I'm using that term very loosely), Friday at 1:00! I should have seen a little red flag, or at least an orange one, when instead of him giving me the name of the resturant, he only gave me directions!! I arrived at a little shopping strip with only three stores: a donut place, a cleaners, and a CICI'S PIZZA.... I thought to myself, "There is no way on God's green earth that he wants us to meet at Cici's?!?! He's a doctor for crying out loud!!!"...... Well guess what, HE DID!!! I walked inside to see a man that vaguely resembled whom I had seen online.... I walked over to him and asked if he was "Tom".... He was.... He was ALSO almost 60!!! OMGoodness! We had a verrrrry quick lunch, had absolutely nothing in common.... Sat in silence most of the time, and said good bye rather quickly.....

***KEEP SITTING***

So if that wasn't bad enough.... fast forward to Friday night when Keanu and I were out at Denton's Jazz Fest..... K was jumping in a bounce house, and I looked over at the line of kiddos waiting to jump, secretly feeling prideful that I got there early enough for my child to be ahead of everyone else, when I notice someone  out of the corner of my eye!! Ding Ding Ding.... You guessed it!!! It was "TOM"..... Wait for it..... WITH HIS WIFE AND THREE KIDS!!!!! If you think for one second, I didn't walk over there and say hi, you would be WRONG!!! I walked over there, said: "Hi Dr. Tom..... Is this your wife and family?!" He literally could not speak, and looked as if he had just seen a ghost!!! She was very nice, and no, I did not bring up our lunch date in front of their children.... i did however tell her i would be in the office monday, and would love to chat with her further! I also sent an email to the dating site, and he has since been removed!! It was literally the shadiest thing that has happened to me in a looooooong time! Needless to say, we do not have plans to see each other again! lol


(C)

Were you raised in a bar???

Day one.... Date TWO

It was about 10:45 and I was on my way to my second date of the evening..... I was actually running hella late, because my first date ran long! ;O) Anyway, the plan was to meet up at a local bar (which I later found out that he owned).... But we'll get into that in just a bit. Soooooo anyway, when I saw his profile online, I instantly thought that he sounded fun. He has experienced a life, some can only dream of! From traveling, to business, to success, so I figured, why not meet up with him..... 

HERE IS WHERE THE STORY GETS INTERESTING!!!! As I said, I was running late, so by the time I got there, he was sitting at the bar outside, and had already ordered us drinks. (whiskey and coke, for anybody wondering what I drink!) Anyway when I approached him, he hopped up to greet me, and all of a sudden, his profile height of 6'3" had shrank down to about 5'10" at best! Now being the polite southern girl that I am, I did not make mention of this obvious discrepancy..... Because, lets face it.... I'm not really 125lbs either! (I weighed this morning and I was 131), so what's a little white lie between friends! lol!

Our conversation started off a little shaky, but quickly softened up after we both slammed the drinks in front of us, and the very next ones the bartender brought over. It was then that she (the bartender), said:  "Can i get you anything else boss?" To which I responded, "WAIT, WHAT... YOU OWN THIS BAR?!?!" (Shout out to all my TX Tech fans.... Shannon I know where we can drink for FREE on our girls night outs from now on!) Turns out he did own it, and a few others..... Ummmm, hello retirement! lol!! We stayed until after closing and I got a little private lesson on how to make the prefect Moscow Mule (my second FAV drink)! In the end, I was right about him..... He is an amazing guy and has lived an amazing life!! What started out a little rocky, ended up pretty dang great! The date wrapped up about 4:AM, and I'm seeing him again this Sunday ;O)

(C)

Men are like waffles.... Women are like spaghetti

Day one, Date one:

I hadn't been online for more than 30mins and i found myself accepting a date with a guy that is 33, a teacher/coach, and he goes to my church..... Can someone say irony!! lol!!

 We agreed to meet at 7:00 at a trendy coffee shop with live music and homemade desserts..... (Well that was the plan anyway!) I arrived at 6:48, and to my surprise, not only were they closed for the evening, but apparently they had been closed for business for the past 4months!! After about a million texts between, (lets just call him "Brad"), and I , we decided that our plan b would just be to meet at the closest Starbucks. "Brad" was, not 5, not 10, but 13mins late!!! But between you and me, when he walked in the door and I saw how handsome he was in person (his pictures do not do him justice!), and the beautiful bouquet of flowers he brought me.... The tardiness was forgiven and forgotten! (I'm such a sucker for a handsome man that not only smells good but is holding flowers too!) lol! 

Our conversation came organically and we discussed everything from our faith in god, to politics, to family, music, movies, and everything in between! One of the highlights of the evening was definitely our discussion about the importance of communication between a man and a woman, and how if a man is to love his wife as Christ loved the church, then both people should never withhold anything from each other and discuss and resolve everything!!  That then lead to how men are like waffles, where they can see everything independently and compartmentalize everything and isolate problems and solutions on a case by case basis! Women on the other hand are like spaghetti.... where everything is intertwined with one leading to another an another and overlapping and all connected with emotion sauce (tears! lol), and how it can be hard for us to separate feelings from pure facts, because to us, our feelings can be just as valid as facts!!.... It was amazing to exchange ideas and truly be able to see each-others perspective and come to a common ground of understanding!! Before I knew it, it was 10:00, and time to wrap it up for the night..... (I mean, I couldn't stay all night!! I had another date to get ready for!) The date ended with a very sweet kiss on my hand..... We made plans to see each other again and I'm looking forward to it ;O)

(C)

The mission....

About 10years ago I went through a break up that left me questioning who I truly was and what I truly wanted!! The soul searching and self discovery led me to sign  up for a dating site..... One that rhymes with "catch, and hatch" (.com) ..... And in 30 days I went on 46 dates!! (Don't judge! lol) Surprisingly, I came out of it with a better understanding of who I was, what I wanted in a partner, what I could live with, without, tolerate, and of course compromise on!

Well here it is a decade later and I have found myself going through a break up that makes that one seem like a walk in the freakin park! In the past month, I have spent more time and money laying on a couch and talking to a bull shit therapist than I care to admit.... And for what?!?! I am still just as heart broken as I was on day one! If not more!! 

So what now???? What could I possibly do to help me recover and rediscover who I am and what I want??? Well round two of course!! So tonight begins another 30day journey with the for mentioned dating site..... This time around I'm a single mom, so I seriously doubt I'll be able to make anywhere near 46dates, but I'm gonna give it one hell of a try!!! 

Here goes nothing.....



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